Ok, so everyone (or at least most everyone) remembers their childhood as a place where there were specific times for eating meals, going to sleep, waking up, doing chores, etc., as well as very specific and usually unpleasant punishments for breaking the rules or doing things you should not. Yet even with all of this, most new parents of my generation are completely and ridiculously retarded when it comes to their kids. Lets look at a few, shall we?
1: The Overprotective Mother
As we all know, the world is a dangerous place. Bad shit happens all the time, and nothing good ever happens to anyone, or so the liberal media outlets want us to believe. The Overprotective Mother feels it is her divine duty to shield her child from any and all experiences that may possibly in some miniscule manner harm the kid. The poor kid is stuck spending most of their free time at home since doing things like going to a friend's house to play or hanging out in the backyard are too risky since we all know evil sexual predators lurk around every corner and behind every bush waiting to snatch up your child and do unspeakable things to them.
No, I don't believe that taking child molesters and such lightly is good, I want them all to die in horrific ways for the things they do. But all imagining some hidden danger around every corner does is drive you crazy and keeps your kids from experiencing life. Kids like this end up getting even more fucked up in the head than if you just let them go do shit out in the real world.
2: The Hippies (and other excessively passive types)
Children need discipline. They don't know things unless we as parents show them what not to do and how to do things properly. Hippies and other "free spirits" don't believe in any of this and prefer the "free range parenting" method. Passivity in parenting does absolutely nothing for a kid except teach them it's ok to be a fuckup in life cause you can live off the government and it's myriad social programs.
It drives me absolutely bonkers when I go out to the mall or a restaurant and run into these people with their kids. The child will be doing something that is exceptionally irritating (screaming, crying, being a brat in general), not only to their parents but also to everyone around them. Airplane flights are a prime example. Instead of doing what they should, the passive parent will either ignore/tune out the bad behavior (which sends me over the edge since just because you can tune it out doesn't mean the rest of us can), or they just keep doing ineffectual things like repeating "now don't do that, that's not nice" or "if you don't stop you won't be able to watch tv/play video games/etc." That airline flight attendant who got in trouble for smacking that screamin kid in the news a while back should not have done that. They should have slapped that stupid mother right in her fat, ugly face for being worthless.
3: The Hypochondriac Parent
Now this could have been lumped in with the overprotective mom, but I felt it deserved its own category since it is becoming more and more common these days. These parents think that when their child does something bad and doesn't stop (usually due to their useless passivity in trying to stop it), that something must be wrong medically with the kid. Unfortunately this is exacerbated by the fucking drug companies in this country that convince people there is a pill or treatment for every goddamn problem they have.
Example: Friend of mine has a kid who is like 8 or 9, who apparently is something of an expert liar. Well, expert in that he gets a lot of practice, not that he's any good. Now, he's been told that if he tells the truth about something bad he's done instead of lying he won't get in trouble, yet he does it anyways, and even when told that they know he is lying he'll still lie. I do not find this surprising, and here's why:
Kids will lie about pretty much everything to avoid possible punishment, EVEN when told they won't get in trouble, since it is pretty much inconceivable for a kid to fathom the concept of "do something bad and NOT get in trouble". I know I never believed it when I was a kid. Also, if caught a child will still try to deny their complicity in the vain hope of avoiding repercussions. This is not anything new and different. Kids have been doing this forever.
So back to my friend, she now thinks there is something wrong in her kids brain and is taking him to have a fucking psychiatric evaluation, which will probably lead to her doping her kid up with whatever bullshit pills the doc tells her he needs so he can get paid.
What all 3 have in common - When other people see this bullshit happening and try to offer friendly advice on how to get the kid on the right track, all 3 of these types of parents will VIOLENTLY react with extreme anger and venom, "How DARE you tell me how to be a parent you fucking asshole!" or "This isn't YOUR kid so don't tell me what I can and can't do!", etc., usually screamed at the unsuspecting person who is generally taken aback by such hatred.
Listen up folks: Having children does NOT, I repeat DOES NOT QUALIFY YOU TO ACTUALLY BE A PARENT. Getting indignant because someone has the temerity to suggest that you stop being a fuckup isn't going to improve anyone's opinion of you, and does not solve the underlying problem of you being a shitty parent. I know when I was a kid, if I stepped out of line I got the business end of a 2x4 that was kept outside my bedroom door as a reminder not to do bad things. Occasionally I would forget and need to be reminded (as it usually goes with children) and you can bet I would be a straight shooter for a long time after that.
And yes, before you remind me, I understand there are retarded parents who go way too far and stray into the realm of child abuse. However DISCIPLINE, when utilized properly, is NOT child abuse. Unfortunately CPS (Child Protective Services) paints that abuse category with a ridiculously broad brush, and for some reason has almost carte blanche as to what they can do to people who aren't doing anything wrong. Someone smackin their kid's ass in the store for being a whiny brat is NOT abuse, do not call CPS on them you fucking douchenozzle.
Discipline is needed now more than ever, I get told off by little shits when they zoom out in front of my car on their bikes and writing profane bullshit in the dust on the windows. My apartment complex just had to spend some bucks to clean up a GIGANTIC graffiti tag that some little bastard left on the entire property divider wall on the south edge of the lot, and it'll probably be back again in a week or so. Hell, my neighbors have 3 little screaming brats that just LOVE to run up and throw rocks at my fucking window and kick the living hell out of my door, and continue to do so after their parents have been told and assured me it would stop.
When I was a kid I was in bed by 8pm, no time to go out and commit crimes (even if I didn't live in the woods in VT). These kids are up til like 2am, it's ridiculous, I can hear em talkin back to their parents too and these kids are like 7 and 10, and they're saying some CRAZY shit. I wouldn't be able to taste anything but soap for a solid week if I talked like that, and wouldn't be able to sit down for an entire month. To illustrate how you know you're doing it right, I submit this:
I love my parents. I love them for having the wherewithal to discipline me when I did wrong and rewarding me when I did right. I am now a reasonably successful, intelligent, and happy human being because of it. I have no mental illnesses brought on by family issues, since there were and are no family issues. I have respect for those deserving of respect and disdain for those who don't. I'm courteous to others and generally only get into it when disrespected first by others, since I don't take shit from anybody. All in all my parents succeeded with me, AND my sister, who is married and has a doctorate in physical therapy. Yes, discipline is good for your kids. If you don't do it, then you obviously don't love them and want them to be complete and utter failure fuckups in life.
That will be all.
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